Clare Henney: Soltera

As I’ve mentioned in a previous post, I recently spent the night in Makati so that I could chat to my single friends about — well — being single. The thing about being single at my age is that most of the friends that I’ve grown up with or gone to school with are married and have kids.  It’s hard to talk to them about how I feel about still being single because they cannot relate to it and to be perfectly honest, many of the things they go through as part of a married couple and as parents I have not yet gone through because I am single.  The few single friends that I have I never really get the chance to talk to about our civil status so when the opportunity came up, I just had to grab it. It was good to share my thoughts and fears of being a single woman at this age and it was comforting to know that there are other women who feel the same way.  Considering that most of the single women I’ve talked to (as well as the married ones who felt “generous” enough to give their unsolicited advice) have told me that at this age I should settle for companionship so that I “could at least try to have one kid,” it was refreshing to hear my friends tell me not to lose hope when it comes to my single status.  I heard about women who had gotten married at ages older than mine so that was inspiring to hear. At my age, I can’t help but wonder if I will ever get married.  People have this wrong assumption about me that I am too independent and thus have no plans of getting married or that I simply have no interest in marriage at all.  There have been comments that I may be too picky too.  Those are all wrong. It’s not that I haven’t had relationships, because I have.  They just haven’t worked out.  I’m only independent because my single status has forced me to learn to be because there is no one else to rely on — it’s part of the drill, so to speak. I would like to get married someday and I am not looking for a perfect guy, just a guy who would be perfect for me (flaws and all).  It may surprise people that I am a hopeless romantic, but I really am. It’s been a long time since I was in a relationship, I just hope that the next time will be my last and would be the one that I will keep for life.

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